building rome / life worth living weekly update

reach for the starsIf you’re just joining me for the first time, I’ve got a list of 10 Major Goals I want to accomplish before I turn 40 in 2016. That’s what I refer to as my Life Worth Living; it’s a DBT thing. If you don’t want to stay stuck where you’ve been in life, you have to figure out where you want to go and what it would take to truly make your life worth living.

To get there, I’m using the Building Rome setup from Green Embers to break those major goals into smaller, more manageable pieces that I tackle on a weekly basis. Every week I do a Creative, Stress Management, Health, Financial, and School goal that tie back to my personal Building a Life Worth Living project.

I would strongly encourage anyone who wants a little boost in helping achieve goals to join Green Embers and the rest of the Building Rome crew as we reach for the stars.

Update from last week:

Creative – I need to make a few bits for care packages that I’d like to send out soon, so I need to figure out what I’m making and then make it. I did start making my list, but that was as far as I got.

Stress Management – I really need to get back on to doing things for myself again to relax in the evenings. I’d like to try to get back to the point where I do at least a small sketch every night. I did some sketching and some reading. I also found the road trip to be quite good for the stress levels.

Health – I’ve got to get rid of this virus. I hate feeling like this. Today is my 3rd day away from work and that’s just kind of killing me. I called the doc’s office right when they opened and someone is supposed to call me back, but that’s been 90 minutes ago. The woman I talked to wasn’t sure if the doc would be able to just call out an antibiotic or if she’d want to see me. I did get an antibiotic and, in general, feel much better. I still have lingering vestiges of this mess that require taking an over the counter med, but I’m nowhere near as miserable as I was.

Financial – Try to minimize how many times I have to go see the doc. We don’t have a co-pay, but we have to pay every time we go and that gets expensive. I managed to not have to in to see any of the docs last week. YAY!

School – Finish all of my homework before we leave Friday afternoon. Done!

flower dividerGoals for this week:

Creative – I still have some of my Christmas money from Mom left and I have the day off work today, so I’m going to the bead store. I got a book on our trip about making wire jewelry and I had found a pattern on Pinterest for making rings a bit ago so I really want to go get the supplies I need for that.

Stress Management – I need to get on top of the chaos that’s crept back in lately, both at home and at work. I tried to do some of that before we left on Friday, but it seems like I always kind of let my stuff explode when I get home from a trip. That’s a huge part of why I’m home today. I need to make a concerted effort to get myself organized again. This is going to include getting my ass in gear and working on those care packages.

Health – Time to get back into the full hygiene routine.

  • Brush and floss 2x/day
  • Shower every day
  • Use special soap stuff at least once a week

Financial – I need to look at numbers this week. I’m really concerned that the Honda is going to be totaled, so that means buying a car again. Hopefully I’ll get enough out of it to pay off the balance of the loan. I won’t really know anything for several days yet. The claims adjuster is coming this afternoon to look at it. Anyway, I need to be prepared.

School – I want to get my homework done today if possible. There are only 2 discussion posts to do, and some replies that can’t be done until other people post, so that shouldn’t be too bad. If I can, I want to try to work ahead. We won’t have Josh’s daughter here for a visit until November 1, but that week is going to suck for homework.

can’t remember the last time I was this tired but in a really good way

What an amazing time…

I don’t think I can even properly tell you how much more relaxed I am now than I was when we left. We laughed, we cried a little, we ate some really great food, and we shopped more than I thought possible. Holy hell I needed that.

Here’s a link to the Flikr album I setup, all 60 some pictures worth. I added descriptions to most of them for you.

I really enjoyed being able to spend that time with my mom. We haven’t taken a road trip like that in ages. I told her stupid jokes. we sang old country music together, and we swore loudly at other drivers. Priceless.

And now I need to go help Josh pick out a guitar. Maybe if I’m not so brain dead in the morning I’ll have something more intelligent to say.

greetings from the land of ten thousand lakes

It’s early Sunday morning and we’re getting ready to go home. We’ve had a great time so far. Lots of shopping, lots of good food, and lots of laughs. I have about a million pictures to show you, but of course this stupid iPad refuses to see my Dropbox from WordPress so I can’t.

Anyway, we should be back early enough tonight that I can get that taken care of. I’m thinking I might need to setup a Flickr account for this so I don’t max out my space here.

Hope y’all are having a good weekend!

in the light of day


1601003_10202993926112464_5338409037603199677_nJosh really is fine, which is good. The Honda is in the garage because the front tire was rapidly going flat last night and the bumper was holding on by a thread and I really didn’t want to have that stuck behind the Jeep and not be able to get out today. We called our insurance company last night to report the claim and the other guy had evidently called his company while waiting for the cops and told them he was going to dispute our claim.

But that was before his twatwaffle self got the motherfucking TICKET. Suck it beeyotch!

10389437_283737471798401_5576553049691579649_nAnyway, I’m waiting for the claims adjuster to call this morning so I can find out how to get a tow truck to come get it. The whole front end of that poor damn car is going to have to be replaced or redone – bumper, hood, grill assembly including headlights, tire and rim, driver’s door, brakes, and Josh said the transmission was acting weird. I hate to even voice this fear, but it could be enough to total the car.

The+receiver+is+all+like...+Fuck+my+life+_9e7ba5b318c059c6fb793a5a3e779ca0I’ve still been trying to get stuff done. I turned in my last assignment for the week a few minutes ago and I’ve been burning CDs to take with. The to do list is slowly getting whittled down.

I’m not sure if I’ll have a chance to post at all this weekend or not. I’m taking robo-phone and my iPad so I’ll have the necessary tech, I’m just not sure I’ll have the necessary time. But I’ve already promised some folks pictures so expect a full onslaught on Monday at the latest. I hope y’all have a wonderful weekend.

this is not the update I wanted to give you

Josh has been in a car accident. He wasn’t hurt, but the Honda will certainly need some time at the body shop. That poor damn front bumper doesn’t stand a chance. Right now I’m waiting to hear if I’ll need to call a tow truck immediately, or just have it towed to the shop tomorrow. I’m also waiting to hear if he’s getting a traffic ticket.

He says that it wasn’t his fault and that he’s got two witnesses who will back up his statement that the other guy was in the wrong. Interestingly enough the other guy lives two houses up from us. And Josh was less than a mile from home.

My list of things to do before we leave on our trip tomorrow is rather monumental, even for me. The very last thing I needed right now was an additional stressor. But I’m going to do what I do best and keep plugging away.

But this was not the update I wanted to give you.

wait, what day is it?

I am so confused. This whole being sick bullshit is for the birds. I’ve got so much to do right now, and not much time. GAH.

10629871_10152703059599589_2938248387913644059_nI did manage to clean up our living space yesterday and that helped my poor little brain quite a bit. Chaos is my sworn enemy. I also managed to get one of my homework assignments for the week done. I did the other one, but I did it completely wrong so I’ll be redoing it tonight. Fortunately I found that out before submitting it. And it shouldn’t take much, I just need to write a Process Description, which I guess is kind of like vague directions or something.

unnamedI’m only working two days this week and I think that’s most of what’s really throwing me. I’m here today and then tomorrow and then we’ll hit the road Friday as soon as Mom gets home. I’ve scheduled vacation for Friday so that I can get the house cleaned up and all of the laundry done. I also scheduled vacation for Monday so that I can recover and do laundry. Laundry just never ends.

trex making bedJust to give a little official midweek update on the goals…

  • I haven’t done shit for the Creative goal cuz I suck
  • I read my book for 45 minutes last night
  • I am taking all of the many MANY extra meds as prescribed and am starting to feel better
  • No trips to the doc this week, yay!
  • As I mentioned, one assignment is done and turned in and I anticipate the other getting finished tonight

10527820_607123489401676_5174935960584619_nI anticipate being totally kick-ass productive tonight. There’s really just too much to do not to. My leg still kind of hurts, but not terrible. And I really am hoping the antibiotic pills will help.

I’m getting really excited about our mini-vacation. We’re headed to Minneapolis to go to the Mall of America, Ikea, and possibly an outlet mall on the way back home. I haven’t done shopping like this in years and I cannot fucking WAIT!!!

victory cat


strange observations

Since I’ve been home sick I’ve made some interesting observations that I thought I’d share, mainly because I’ve been home sick for going on a week now and I really don’t have much else to write about.

First though, a wee update.

I did get in touch with the doc’s office yesterday FINALLY. I never did really get any kind of information on what she thinks this has blossomed into, but she called out an antibiotic and told me that I should consider myself contagious until I’ve gone a solid 24 hours with no fever. Given that the fever was what prompted me to call yesterday morning, I’m at home again today. But I am starting to feel better. Tired, really fucking tired, but better.

As if this virus mess wasn’t enough fun, I’m having issues with my skin on my other leg now. I’m not really sure what’s going on as it doesn’t feel like the usual mess, but it’s kind of uncomfortable. I’ve been doing the things the dermatologist said to do and I’m hoping the antibiotic from the GP will help, too. Because really, something else hurting is just what I need right now.

Ok, on to the observations…

Daytime television SUCKS. I haven’t been able to concentrate a whole lot on anything so I’ve spent more time with the tube this last week than I have in the last few years. We have a ridiculous cable package and I still can hardly find anything worth watching. Thank gawd for the DVR.

Evie Cat will sort of snuggle me and be friendly, but pretty well only if Josh isn’t home. I was pretty bummed out last night and she curled up by me on the bed for awhile and purred for all she was worth. As soon as Josh came home from school she wanted nothing to do with me.

2014-10-13 21.05.34When I get sick I turn into a world class slob. The living area down here is so bad that I really don’t even want Mom coming in. It’s not really filthy or dirty, it’s just messy as hell. There’s shit strewn on every flat surface. It’s kind of making me crazy. If I feel well enough today I might have to tackle it.

I honestly don’t remember the last time I was this sick for this long. It’s not uncommon for me to get bronchitis once a year and a cold here and there, but this shit has been ridiculous. I really think the last time I missed this much work due to an illness was when I had to take the 6 weeks off for my hysterectomy.