Church of the Snowflake

CoS2In light of the holidays fast approaching, and my firm belief in the goodness we all have within us, I thought we would all go to church together this morning.

We recognize that every person is a unique individual and is allowed to hold whatever beliefs seem right to her/him. The only rule is that while you’re practicing your preferred beliefs you need to BE NICE. You want to pray to the Christian God? Great, just be nice. You want to honor the Sabbath? Terrific, be nice to the people you meet at the temple. You want to orient yourself in a specific direction and send your prayers to a place you think is really special? That’s awesome, just be nice while you do it. Don’t push your beliefs on others, don’t belittle their beliefs, and above all, BE NICE. Don’t send me your money, we don’t do that here. Just be nice, as often as you can to as many people as you can. BE NICE.

Mama is thankful

attitude of gratitudeSince I apparently can’t get motivated to do any work while at work today, why not steal an idea from Mer and give y’all a lovely little list of things I’m thankful for right now.

  • I’ve got the job of my dreams and I get to work with some of the most amazing people ever.
  • My mental health support network is phenomenal. They encourage me to seek help when I need it and they never make me feel ashamed for that. They also encourage me to push my limits (appropriately) and be the person I want to be.
  • I have the most awesome friends in the world, many of whom are scattered around the world.
  • I’ve gotten back in touch with my creative side lately and found that it really helps with the stress.
  • My health is better than it’s been in awhile.
  • I’m learning how to set boundaries in appropriate ways.
  • I’ve discovered that I actually have much more patience that I give myself credit for.
  • Mom, Josh, the littles, and the Cats.
  • The opportunity to share some cookies.

What are you fine folks thankful for right now?

life worth living weekly update

reach for the starsIf you’re just joining me for the first time, I’ve got a list of 10 Major Goals I want to accomplish before I turn 40 in 2016. That’s what I refer to as my Life Worth Living; it’s a DBT thing. If you don’t want to stay stuck where you’ve been in life, you have to figure out where you want to go and what it would take to truly make your life worth living.

Every week I do a Creative, Stress Management, Health, Financial, and School goal that tie back to my Building a Life Worth Living project. Bit by bit I’m reaching for the stars.

Update from last week:

Creative – I’m going to combine this with the Financial goal this week. I need to finalize my list of what I’m making for the few folks who are getting Christmas gifts, make sure I have all of the supplies I need, and then get started. Also, keep working on the rose doily. That needs to be done by the end of November.

I did some of the planning. It was only some because I’m still not entirely sure what to do for the small people. I figured out a few pieces though and I do have more than adequate supplies. I didn’t really get started though and I wasn’t able to crochet at all. My thumb is still super tender.

Stress Management – Spend at least 45 minutes doing something I find relaxing every night that isn’t electronic. Reading, sketching, knitting, crocheting, Legos, Nanoblocks – whatever. I have plenty of things to keep myself busy with that don’t require any electricity beyond having a light turned on.

This was much more of a success. Need to keep working on it tough.

Health – Time to get back to hitting the self-care routines hard and heavy. This week I want to specifically focus on:

  • Brush and floss at least once each day – yes, except Saturday
  • Be aware of the food and drink choices I’m making; I’m not going to try documenting everything again just yet, but I want to be more cognizant of what goes in my mouth – yes, and I kind of suck at eating healthy
  • Take a full shower every day (washing my hair is optional, the rest is not) – yes, except Saturday
  • Apply the topical antibiotic at least once each day – oh hell
  • Do the Hibiclens routine at least every other day – dammit!!!

I have all of the necessary supplies in the necessary places to make this as easy as possible. I even have a back-up bottle of Hibiclens on hand, just in case. There really shouldn’t be any excuses. Trying again…

School – Continue to work on getting/staying ahead. Next week is Thanksgiving so there’s very little due anyway but I want to take advantage of how slow it will be at work to get as far ahead as possible. I also need to start getting some work done on my portfolio. The content is up to date as of the last class I took (the one in the spring), but I’m thinking the look needs to be updated a little.

I’m having a really hard time getting my team mates for this project motivated to do anything and it’s really pissing me off.

flower dividerGoals for this week:

Because this week will be so odd for me – 3 days at work that will mostly be quiet, Thanksgiving itself, spending Friday with the nieces, and then having the kid over for the weekend – I’m not actually doing to set any concrete goals. I know the things I need to stay on top of for my health and that’s the most important place for me to focus.

this isn’t photoshopped, I shit you not

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Evie Cat utterly hates having her picture taken. Most of the time I have to be super stealthy, or she has to be unconscious, for me to get a decent shot. But tonight while we were making a second dinner (that is a long and sorry ass story, wherein I fuck up food in the crock pot) she got her fluffy little ass up on the table and we got this little selfie with my phone. That cat has the most striking facial markings. Anyway, I think it looks ‘shopped because of the way her head and mine are kind of overlapped a little. And I am that annoying cat mom that likes to post random shots of her baby. So there ya go.

pay it forward

10389225_10152766834787278_7789491845605809194_nWe’re coming into a rough season for a lot of folks. Some of us are still dealing with memories of loved ones lost. Some of us are battling demons inside our bodies. And some of us are struggling to keep the lights on, the roof over our head, and some food on the table.

I am fortunate enough to have what I have, and I know that. I try very hard not to take my riches for granted, ever. What this means for me is that when the opportunity presents itself for me to make a difference, however small, in someone elses life – I jump on it. And I would encourage you to do the same.

Go through your cupboards and see if you have some extra food that you can donate to a food pantry. Make a monetary donation to a charity that supports a cause you believe in. Volunteer at a soup kitchen.

There is no end to the need and there are unlimited ways you can help.

If you have two cookies and the person next to you has none, give them one of your cookies. The one you eat will taste better for it, I guarantee.

Be the good

holy crap, what a day!

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Another craft project, yay! This one has been in the works for awhile now, at least a week. I found the idea on Pinterest and then all of us got in on the action. They’re going to be our primary (only?) outside winter decorations, aside from a wreath on the front door I think.

Today has been wall to wall busy. Mom and I went out for breakfast, ran to 3 different grocery stores – taking time to get supplies for a food drive going on for one of the homeless shelters at the one store – then Target to get supplies for the girls’ birthdays (there was a local motorcycle club there at the time buying the place out of frozen turkeys to donate to some charity, we weren’t sure which one), cleaned out and organized the deep freeze and both fridges/freezers and the kitchen pantry, plus we got out the Christmas decorations we’ve decided to put up this year and got the tree put together so that when the girls come over next Friday they can decorate it.


Josh just left to pick up what is, in my humble little opinion, some of the very best pizza in this area. It should go nicely with the SEVEN containers of ice cream we currently have. And no, they aren’t mostly empty – I think most of them have been purchased within the last week.

When we were getting the Christmas stuff out I found my stash of cards. This is no shit – it fills a plastic shoe box. So honestly kids, doesn’t anyone want a card from me?

Executive Memorandum #12

For fuck sake, if I’m going to go to the trouble of pinning ideas I should maybe commit to making a few of them on a slightly more regular basis.

I’ve just spent more time this evening collecting ideas for someday, you know, someday – that mythical day that never actually arrives. I need to either shit or get off the pot.